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The clinical thinking behind a fully-booked trauma psychologist.

step inside my brain

Obsessed with root causes. Scary committed to getting it right.

Sorry to say it (am I, though?), but a lot of trauma content online is wildly oversimplified.

Possibilities get presented as facts. Complicated problems get neat little explanations. Important distinctions disappear, context gets overlooked, and the details that could completely change how you understand something never even get mentioned.

My mission: give you my brain.

Because you know what they told you. But I know what they missed.

The Trauma Nerd Podcast is where I bring the thinking developed through 7,000+ hours of clinical trauma work to the concepts, questions and rabbit holes that deserve a closer look.

We'll challenge familiar assumptions, pull apart misunderstood concepts, examine why things work the way they do, and get into the clinical nuances that rarely make it into your Instagram feed.

Like why you can logically know something isn’t true but still feel like it is. Or how to tell whether your reaction might be a trauma response… or, just your totally normal human feeling.

Less cliché therapy speak. More "oooooh, I get it now!"

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Recent episodes

  • Are Your Judgy Thoughts a Defence Mechanism? (Hint: Probably)

    episode 8

    We all judge. We all hate that we judge (we even judge our judgement!). But judgment is usually a defence mechanism pointing to something painful underneath. A short one on using judgment as a compass, not an enemy.

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  • From Road Rage to Sobbing: A Tool for Discharging Anger

    Episode 9

    Ever had an angry reaction that felt too big for the moment? A simple body-based technique for discharging anger, plus the road rage story that took me from raging to sobbing in minutes, and why that's exactly what was meant to happen.

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  • 5 Surprising Signs You're Being a Crappy Parent to Yourself

    Episode 10

    Most of us have the nurturing side of self-parenting covered. But good parenting has a fiercer side too. Five signs you might be accidentally skipping it, and what to do instead.

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  • From "I'm worthless" to "I'm worthy", why the opposite of your problem is probably NOT your solution.

    Episode 11

    Why swinging to the opposite extreme keeps you stuck, and how to find the belief you can actually buy into.

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  • Bonus Episode: Lessons From Over 7,000 Trauma Therapy Sessions

    episode 12

    Honest reflections at the end of Season 1. Why 90% of trauma work isn't what you'd expect, why not everything is that deep, and why the brain's capacity to heal still feels like a miracle.

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